thoughts while waiting…

it has been 1 year and counting for Zoey Bin to come home which has given us A LOT of time to research adoption issues and learn from others experiences.

what have we learned in this time? mostly how to prepare for the worst. yes, I'm a realist/pessimist…prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

over the last year, I've encountered various comments from well-meaning friends (and strangers). what I've learned from these interactions? issues faced by adoptive families are mostly lost on those who haven't been through it. this was frustrating until I realized - how can we expect others to understand these issues when WE ourselves were so naive at the start of this process?

one past encounter involved a "curious george" who wanted to know details about Zoey's birth parents. why should people feel it is their business to know personal details about a child's life? this type of curiosity will not be rewarded. personal information is…well, personal…to anyone but especially to an adopted child which is why we are choosing to respect Zoey's privacy and allow her to share information about her background if and when SHE decides she is ready.

in an effort to "gently educate" friends and family (and anyone else for that matter) I have decided to write a series of posts highlighting some of the issues that we will be working through when we bring our darling Zoey home.

stay tuned for more educational and hopefully thought-provoking posts NOT intended to offend…

we are asking for lots of prayer because we realize we can't successfully parent without God's help. we are convinced He specifically chose us to be Zoey's forever family and this knowledge alone will help us through any difficult times to come.